About Counselling

Q: What can I expect in a counselling session?
A: Counselling is a space just for you. In our sessions, we’ll explore what you’re going through – whether that’s stress, anxiety, trauma, or simply wanting to better understand yourself. Some sessions may feel like a conversation, others may involve guided exercises or strategies you can use outside of therapy. Every session is shaped to meet your needs.

Q: Do I need to have a specific problem to come to counselling?
A: Not at all. Counselling isn’t only for crisis or trauma. Many people come simply because they want to understand themselves better, feel more balanced, or have a space to reflect on life changes. Therapy can be a place for growth – not just healing.

Q: Can therapy help even if I don’t know exactly what’s wrong?
A: Absolutely. You don’t need to have all the words or a clear diagnosis to start therapy. Sometimes the first step is simply noticing that something feels “off” and exploring it together.

Q: What if I don’t know my goals for therapy?
A: That’s completely okay. We can figure them out together. Sometimes the first sessions are about exploring what feels most important, and your goals may evolve as we go.

Q: How long does counselling usually take?
A: The number of sessions depends on your needs. Some people come for a short period to work through a specific challenge; others benefit from longer-term support. We’ll check in regularly to make sure you’re getting what you need from the process. The length of therapy is different for everyone.

Q: Is everything I share confidential?
A: Most definitely. What you share in counselling stays between us, with only a few exceptions required by law (for example, situations involving safety concerns). These limits will be explained in detail in the consent form during your first session. Confidentiality is the foundation of a safe and trusting therapeutic relationship.

Q: Will you judge me?
A: Not at all! Counselling is a non-judgmental space. My role is to listen, understand, and support – not to criticize. At times I may gently offer a new perspective or challenge patterns that feel stuck, but always with respect and care, keeping your growth at the center.

Q: What if I cry in session?
A: That’s okay and perfectly normal. Counselling is a safe space for all emotions, and crying can actually be an important part of releasing what you’ve been carrying. If it happens, I’ll support you through it and make sure you feel grounded before we end the session.

Q: What if I feel worse before I feel better?
A: That can happen. Therapy sometimes stirs up emotions you’ve been holding onto. Feeling heavier at first doesn’t mean it isn’t working – it often means important things are coming to the surface. I’ll always pace the work with care so you feel safe and supported.

When clients ask me this, I often think of the story of the bamboo plant: for five years, the seed grows roots underground with no visible progress, but then suddenly it shoots up as much as 80 feet in just six weeks. Growth in therapy can be like that—sometimes slow and unseen before it becomes noticeable.

If you ever feel concerned, we’ll talk about it openly and focus on grounding techniques to help you

Q: What happens if I “fail” at therapy?
A: There’s no failing in therapy. Sometimes progress is fast, sometimes it’s slower or less visible. Even showing up is an act of courage and growth.

Q: Can I bring notes or a journal to therapy?
A: Absolutely. Some clients like to jot down thoughts, dreams, or situations that come up between sessions. Bringing them can help us focus on what matters most to you.

Q: What if I want to stop therapy?
A: That’s your choice. You are never “locked in.” Some people pause when they feel stable, others return later when new challenges arise. If you choose to end, we’ll work together to make sure it feels complete and supportive for you.

About EMDR

Q: What is EMDR?
A: Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a structured therapy developed in the late 1980s by psychologist Francine Shapiro to help people heal from distressing experiences. Unlike traditional talk therapy, EMDR doesn’t require you to describe events in detail. Instead, it uses a step-by-step process with bilateral stimulation (eye movements, tapping, or sounds) to help the brain reprocess memories so they no longer feel as overwhelming.

Q: How does EMDR work?
A: EMDR follows eight structured phases, beginning with history-taking and preparation before moving into processing when you feel ready. It is guided by the Adaptive Information Processing (AIP) model, which suggests that our brains are naturally wired to process experiences into healthy memory networks. When something overwhelming happens, though, a memory can become “stuck” in its raw form – carrying the same emotions, body sensations, and beliefs from the original event.

Bilateral stimulation (eye movements, tapping, or sounds) is thought to help the brain reprocess these memories. Research suggests it may increase communication between the brain’s hemispheres, reduce the vividness and emotional charge of the memory, and calm overactive fear responses in the amygdala. Over time, the memory becomes integrated as part of the past, without overwhelming the present.

Q: What kinds of concerns can EMDR help with?
A: Research shows EMDR is effective for:

·       Trauma (both single-event and ongoing/complex trauma)

·       PTSD and anxiety

·       Phobias and panic

·       Grief, loss, and depression

·       Stress and performance-related issues (work, exams, and public speaking)

·       Sleep difficulties and nightmares

·       Chronic pain or health-related stress

That said, EMDR is just one option. Some clients prefer traditional counselling conversations, and others benefit from combining approaches.

Q: What does an EMDR session feel like?
A: An EMDR session is structured and paced carefully. We choose a memory or trigger, use the form of bilateral stimulation that feels most comfortable, and pause regularly to notice emotions, thoughts, or body sensations that arise. Many clients describe feeling lighter or less triggered by the memory afterward.

Q: Is EMDR right for me?
A: It depends. Some people feel ready to explore EMDR right away; others prefer to start with talk therapy before moving into memory processing. We’ll talk together about your comfort, readiness, and goals to decide what approach is best for you.

Q: Can EMDR be done virtually, or is it better in person?
A: Yes – EMDR can be very effective in a virtual setting. Bilateral stimulation, which is central to EMDR, can be adapted for online sessions. Many clients find that doing EMDR virtually allows them to process memories in the comfort and safety of their own environment, which can make it easier to stay grounded.

Research shows that virtual EMDR is comparable in effectiveness to in-person EMDR for many concerns. What matters most is pacing, preparation, and support – and those remain the same whether we meet online or in person.

Q: What if I’d prefer in-person EMDR?
A: Some people do feel more comfortable with therapy in person, and that’s completely valid. At this time, I offer EMDR only in a virtual format. If you’re uncertain, we can talk about your preferences and comfort level before starting EMDR, so you can decide if virtual sessions feel right for you.

Q: Does EMDR erase memories?
A: No. The goal of EMDR is not to erase what happened but to reduce the intensity of how it feels, so the memory no longer holds as much power.

Q: How many sessions does it take?
A: It varies. Some people notice changes within 6–12 sessions, especially when working on a single traumatic event. Others may need longer-term support if they are processing multiple or more complex experiences. The pace depends on your history, your goals, and the way we work together.

Q: What are the risks?
A: EMDR is considered a safe and effective therapy, but like any approach it can bring up strong emotions. Processing difficult memories sometimes feels intense in the moment – which is why preparation and pacing are so important. We’ll go slowly, check in often, and make sure you have grounding tools to help you feel steady. The goal is always to move at a pace that feels safe and manageable for you.

Q: What if EMDR isn’t the right fit for me?
A: That’s completely okay. Therapy is not one-size-fits-all, and we can explore other approaches together.

Practical Details

Q: Do you offer virtual counselling?
A: Yes – all of my sessions are virtual, so you can connect from wherever you feel most comfortable.

Q: What are the benefits of virtual counselling?
A: Virtual counselling offers several advantages:

·       Convenience: No commute, no parking – just log in from wherever you are.

·       Comfort: Many people find it easier to open up when they’re in a familiar environment.

·       Accessibility: Virtual sessions make counselling available even if you live outside the city, have mobility challenges, or a busy schedule.

·       Continuity: Whether you’re traveling, moving, or dealing with unexpected circumstances, online sessions allow you to keep consistent support.

Research also shows that virtual counselling can be just as effective as in-person therapy for many concerns.

Q: What if I prefer not to use video for virtual sessions?
A: That’s completely fine. We can meet by phone, or you’re welcome to keep your camera off if that feels more comfortable. What matters most is creating a space where you feel safe and supported.

Q: What if I move away or travel a lot?
A: We can continue virtually if you’re still within a region I’m licensed to practice in. If you move somewhere else, I can point you toward resources and directories so you can find a therapist who’s the right fit for you.

Q: What if I can’t afford ongoing counselling?
A: Therapy is an investment in yourself, but I know cost matters. We can talk openly about your budget and find a plan that works, whether that means adjusting frequency or connecting you with community resources.

Q: Do you take notes during sessions?
A: Sometimes I jot down a few key points to help me remember important themes or goals. Notes are kept private and secure, and you’re always welcome to ask what I’m writing.

Q: Do you offer consultations before committing?
A: Yes. I offer a free 15-minute consultation where you can ask questions, get a sense of my style, and see if working together feels like a good fit for you.

The Therapeutic Relationship

Q: Is it normal to feel nervous before starting therapy?
A: Absolutely. Reaching out for support takes courage, and it’s normal to feel anxious or unsure in the beginning. Most people find that the nerves ease once we’ve met and you have a sense of what the process is like.

Q: What if I’ve tried counselling before and it didn’t help?
A: That’s a common experience. Every therapist has a different style, and sometimes it takes finding the right fit. I encourage clients to share what has or hasn’t worked for them in the past so we can adjust our approach together. Therapy works best as a collaboration.

Q: How do I know if you’re the right therapist for me?
A: Time and again, research shows that the strongest predictor of success in counselling isn’t a specific method or tool – it’s the connection between client and therapist. When you feel safe, heard, and respected, that relationship becomes the foundation for positive change. Techniques matter, but it’s the trust and rapport we build together that truly make therapy effective. That’s why I offer an initial consultation – so you can get a feel for my style, ask questions, and see if it feels like a good match. If not, I’ll happily point you toward other resources or colleagues who might be a better fit.

Q: Will counselling make me dependent on therapy?
A: The goal of therapy is the opposite – to help you build tools and confidence so you can navigate challenges independently. Many people find they need fewer sessions over time as they begin to integrate what they’ve learned.

Q: What if I don’t know what to say in a session?
A: That’s completely okay. You don’t have to come prepared with a script. Sometimes silence gives space for reflection. Other times, I’ll guide with questions or exercises. Sessions can unfold naturally, even if you’re unsure where to start.

Q: Will you give me advice or tell me what to do?
A: My role isn’t to tell you what choices to make. Instead, I’ll help you explore your options, clarify your values, and find the path that feels right for you. Sometimes I’ll share strategies or perspectives, but the decisions are always yours.

Q: What if I forget what we talked about?
A: That’s normal – processing therapy can take time, and not everything sticks right away. Some clients keep a reflection journal between sessions to track insights or reminders. I’m also happy to summarize key takeaways at the end of a session.

Q: Can I bring a support person (partner, friend, family) to a session?
A: Generally, individual counselling works best one-on-one, but sometimes it helps to bring someone for support in a specific session. We can discuss what feels most helpful for your goals.

Q: What if I see you on the street?
A: Your privacy is always my priority. If we happen to see each other in public, I’ll take your lead. I won’t approach or acknowledge you unless you choose to. This way, you’re always in control of what feels comfortable outside of session.

Q: What if I’m upset with you as my therapist?
A: That’s completely valid – and welcome. Therapy works best when you can be honest, even about our relationship. If something I do doesn’t sit well, I encourage you to bring it up. Talking about those feelings can be an important part of the process, and I will listen with openness and respect.

Q: Do you accept feedback about your approach?
A: Absolutely. Therapy is collaborative. If something doesn’t feel helpful, I want to hear it so we can adjust. Your feedback helps shape the process.

Q: Can I talk about cultural or identity concerns in therapy?
A: Most definitely. Culture, identity, and lived experience shape how we see the world. These can include things like race, ethnicity, gender identity, sexual orientation, religion, family roles, or experiences of marginalization. I welcome those conversations and will always honor your perspective. If these concerns are important to you, they are important to bring into our work together.

Q: Do you work with medication or psychiatrists?
A: I don’t prescribe medication, but I’m happy to collaborate with your doctor or psychiatrist if that’s part of your care. Some clients use therapy alone, others combine therapy with medication – there’s no one right path.

Q: What if I need help between sessions?
A: Counselling sessions are scheduled, but life doesn’t always wait. If something urgent comes up, you can reach out and I’ll do my best to respond as soon as I can. For true emergencies, I’ll provide you with crisis resources so you always have immediate support available. You can also visit the Resources tab on my website, where I’ve gathered supports and tools that may be helpful between sessions.

Q: How do I know therapy is working?
A: Sometimes the changes are subtle – you might notice you’re less triggered, more confident, or handling stress differently. Other times, it’s a clear breakthrough. Other times, progress feels like a clear breakthrough or shift in perspective. We’ll check in regularly on your goals so you can notice what’s changing, both in and outside of sessions. Even small steps – like increased awareness, setting a boundary, or feeling more self-compassion — are signs that the work is moving forward.